This is why I really don’t get mad about it. Not that it isn’t bad. But this is what an abusive relationship is like. I was in one and that’s exactly what I thought. I could stand up to them and yell and whatever and all they’d do is make it worse. I could stop them from hurting our animals and probably not end up doing anything besides get more hurt, or i could sit down and shut down. There are certainly things we can encourage abuse victims to do, and even be disappointed in if they do certain things, but it really doesn’t help to be angry about it